December 30th 2018. Feast of the Holy Family
GOSPEL: Luke 2, 41-52
Translated from a
homily by Don Fabio Rosini, broadcast on Vatican Radio
Don
Fabio’s reflection follows the Gospel reading . . .
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GOSPEL Luke 2:41-52
Each year Jesus’ parents went to Jerusalem for the
feast
of Passover, and when he was twelve years old,
they went up according to festival custom.
After they had completed its days, as they were returning,
the boy Jesus remained behind in Jerusalem,
but his parents did not know it.
Thinking that he was in the caravan, they journeyed for a day
and looked for him among their relatives and acquaintances,
but not finding him, they returned to Jerusalem to look for him.
After three days they found him in the temple,
sitting in the midst of the teachers,
listening to them and asking them questions,
and all who heard him were astounded
at his understanding and his answers.
When his parents saw him, they were astonished, and his mother said to him,
“Son, why have you done this to us?
Your father and I have been looking for you with great anxiety.”
And he said to them, “Why were you looking for me?
Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house?”
But they did not understand what he said to them.
He went down with them and came to Nazareth,
and was obedient to them;
and his mother kept all these things in her heart.
And Jesus advanced in wisdom and age and favour before God and man.
of Passover, and when he was twelve years old,
they went up according to festival custom.
After they had completed its days, as they were returning,
the boy Jesus remained behind in Jerusalem,
but his parents did not know it.
Thinking that he was in the caravan, they journeyed for a day
and looked for him among their relatives and acquaintances,
but not finding him, they returned to Jerusalem to look for him.
After three days they found him in the temple,
sitting in the midst of the teachers,
listening to them and asking them questions,
and all who heard him were astounded
at his understanding and his answers.
When his parents saw him, they were astonished, and his mother said to him,
“Son, why have you done this to us?
Your father and I have been looking for you with great anxiety.”
And he said to them, “Why were you looking for me?
Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house?”
But they did not understand what he said to them.
He went down with them and came to Nazareth,
and was obedient to them;
and his mother kept all these things in her heart.
And Jesus advanced in wisdom and age and favour before God and man.
THE GOSPEL OF THE LORD: Praise to you Lord
Jesus Christ
Kieran’s
summary . . . It can be traumatic for families when children
begin to take different paths to those expected by their parents. But it is a
grave matter if parents do not allow their children the freedom to be the
people that the Lord is calling them to be. Parents must accept the trauma of
the mystery of the otherness of their children. And how true this was of Jesus!
Mary had experienced the Annunciation and knew that this child was
extraordinary. But even she has to live through the trauma of the unexpected. In
the Gospel, Jesus leaves the path that the family is taking and walks a road
that is his own. When they find him in the Temple, he has a wisdom and a way of
reasoning that is surprising to everyone. A child at twelve years of age (typically)
begins to manifest his own identity. It is at this stage that a parent must
accompany rather than force a child. The parent must allow the child to flower
according to what God has sown within, not according to parental expectations!
Yes, it is traumatic when a child takes his own path, but it is healthy and terribly
important that he do so. When Jesus says, “I must take care of my Father’s
business”, the phrase in the original Greek really signifies, “I must be in my
Father’s business”. What this means is that Jesus is totally caught up in his
relationship with his Father. It is impossible for him to be any other way. And
the same should be true for each one of us! We are created by God and our
existence receives its true meaning from its connection with God. If we are to
live authentically, then we must base on lives on our primary relationship with
the Father. Once we do this, then all the other relationships in our lives and
in our families are ordered properly. Without God, our relationships with others
are at a horizontal level. It is because of this that many familial
relationships end up broken. But once we base all other relationships upon our
primary connection with the Father, then these other relationships begin to
draw life from the God who is the source of life. The passage ends with the return
of the family to Nazareth and Jesus’ submission to Mary and Joseph. This is
true for all families. If I have the correct relationship with our heavenly
Father, then I can have a correct relationship with everyone else. Our families
in the modern world are so fragile and broken. They are saved by our connection
with God, not by human techniques. With God we are freed from our dependencies
on empty things and we become free to construct our families on their only
authentic foundation, our relationship with God. This Christmas, let us
contemplate the Christ who is born of the Father. May we too become new
creatures whose life derives from our relationship with the Lord.
What does it mean to be a parent? To have possession of a child? Are
relationships based on connections between people or should they be grounded
first and foremost in God?
The first
reading tells how Hannah, the mother of Samuel (the one who will anoint David
as king of Israel), takes her son as soon as he is weaned and gives him over to
the Lord. Samuel is left with the priest, Eli, who will raise him and educate
him. Hannah had longed for a child for many years but now she has little time
to enjoy him before giving him to the Lord. Maternity is not about the
possession of a child. The sacrament of matrimony is about the construction of
the Church and society, about raising, instructing and welcoming life in all
its forms. In opposition to that, the tendency towards self-reference and
egoism is ever-present in all that we do. Familial relationships are
potentially salvific, consoling and edifying, but they can also be disordered
and destructive. How can we foster authentic maternal and paternal
relationships?
In every child there is something mysterious and novel that goes beyond
the understanding and expectations of his parents
The Gospel
tells of a journey to Jerusalem on the occasion of Passover, and the story
refers to a definite rite of passage or transformation in the life of the
family. At the age of twelve, a Jewish boy was considered to pass to adulthood
and would undergo a ritual called Bar Mitzvah. He was expected to be able to
read the scriptures in Hebrew, answer questions and be knowledgeable about his
Jewish faith. Jesus goes to Jerusalem at this age along with a caravan of
people. But when it is time to return home, Jesus affirms that he has a new
home, the true home of his existence. His parents are unaware at first that he
is missing, and when they find him they do not understand his response. There
is always something in a child that cannot be fully understood by his parents.
When a child becomes an adult, we begin to discover that he is a mysterious and
surprising creation of God. There is always an aspect of the child that will go
beyond the conceptual schemes of his parents. Parents must accept that being a
parent involves one day having to face up to this surprise. Your child cannot
be fully comprehended by you. There is a side to your child that you will not
be able to fully comprehend. Every parenthood, even the spiritual fatherhood of
the priest, must one day confront this trauma of incomprehension before the
mystery of the other. A parent raises a child and believes that she knows him
through and through, but this is simply not true. In every child there is the
invisible that God will unveil in them, the substance of their personal
relationship with God, something unique and unrepeatable.
Our God is the God of surprises. His work always involves innovation and
originality
Jesus has
left the caravan and can no longer be found among his relatives and friends. He
has gone beyond the parameters by which his parents would normally have
understood him. When they eventually find him, he is in the Temple among the
elders and he is being questioned by them. He demonstrates wisdom beyond his
years. How often we hear children express intuitions that leave us
flabbergasted. Children nowadays demonstrate an aptitude for technological
matters that far exceeds that of their parents. This is just an example, but
every new generation always has something new to contribute that goes beyond
what is expected of them. We see this in the story of Jesus in the Temple. God
bestows something new upon each of us that surpasses that which has been given
to us by our parents. It is incredible to think that the mother of Jesus is the
Blessed Virgin Mary, but God has even more to say to his son than this
wonderful lady can say to him. We call Mary the “Seat of Wisdom” and rightly
so, but even she was perturbed by the words of the angel Gabriel at the
Annunciation. Our God is the God of surprises, and the work that he is bringing
to fruition in his own son is full of novelty and innovation.
Jesus cannot help but be totally caught up in the things of his Father.
And if our relationships are to be authentic, then we must be the same
Mary is at
the centre of this passage. When they find Jesus, she asks why he has done
this. “Your father and I have been searching for you”, she says. Here we see
great refinement. It is not easy for men to communicate their feelings. In this
phrase Mary mediates between Joseph and Jesus and helps her husband to
communicate with her son. It is easier for mothers to relate their feelings to
their sons, and here Mary mentions the sentiments of her husband before she
mentions her own. Jesus replies, “Why were you searching for me? Did you not
know that I must take care of my Father’s business?” Yes, they knew in one
sense, but in another sense they did not know at all. The things of the Father
are always new and surprising. The words of Jesus do not signify to be occupied by
the things of his Father, but to be in the things of the
Father. The nature of Christ’s complete being is such that he cannot be
anything else but completely caught up in his relationship with the Father. And
it is the same for us, even if we do not know it. It is a fact of our existence
that our entire being is in relationship with God. We are truly ourselves when
we cultivate that relationship with the Lord. Just as Jesus is in the Father,
so we too are called to save our relationships by basing them on this
marvellous connections with God. It is in and through our relationship with God
that our relationships with others settle down and become less anguishes. Life
does not depend on horizontal relationships between people. These relationships
rather are an echo and a consequence of our primary relationship with our
heavenly Father. When we have a proper relationship with God then we are not
threatened or obsessed by other relationships; we do not become slaves of such
relationships, nor do we descend into violence or abuse. It is God who is the
source of life in our relationships. When we seek life from horizontal
associations with others, then we end up being immersed in vengefulness or
hatred. Perhaps in Christian formation in the past we have been too concerned
with demanding that people conform to certain expectations rather than allowing
them the freedom to follow God’s path for them. May the Lord grant us this
Christmas to contemplate Christ and to become new creations ourselves, born
from the Father. God can bring Christ to life within each one of us.